

Paperback: 183 pages
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers (November 20, 2006)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1566993288
ISBN-13: 978-1566993289
Product Dimensions: 5.6 x 0.5 x 8.4 inches
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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and SynagogueI am an evangelically-minded United Methodist pastor working on my Doctor of Ministry at Asbury Theological Seminary. It was through this program that I encountered this book. As I read it, I had an "Aha!" moment on every page. Repeatedly, I found myself saying, "Now I understand why this happened...why s/he said this...why I felt that..."Steinke has specialized in making the Family Systems theory of Murray Bowen, as taught by his personal mentor Edwin Friedman, accessible to and practical for Christian leaders and congregations. He accomplishes this task exceedingly well, not only in this book, but in "Healthy Congregations" and "How Your Church Family Works." I heartily recommend any of these three books to any congregational leader (lay or clergy) who wants to understand the emotional dynamics that drive the anxiety, tension, and conflict in so many congregations.Steinke's (and Bowen's and Friedman's) advice to leaders could be summarized in three simple statements: 1- Regulate your anxiety; 2- Define or differentiate yourself in terms of values and beliefs; 3- Stay in touch with the people in the midst of their issues. These are simple to say, but not so simple to DO. You will have to read the book(s) to gain a full understanding of what these statements mean. And you will spend the rest of your life learning how to do them. They are not "quick fixes." If you're looking for "quick fixes," don't read this book.
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